LIVING A PROPER LIFE
Last week I posted 4 different lots of Rules to live your life by. I thought based on the feedback that I would post all 56 in one session. So here are some 56 Golden Rules to live by.
Follow them and you won’t go too far wrong in life.
1. People who work in the service industry serving – Acknowledge your customer or client when they come to see you. Even if you’re on the phone or with someone else – let them know you know they’re there with a smile, eye contact or small wave
2. Remember to always have excellent table manners. That means eating with your mouth closed, Knife and fork, or spoon resting on your plate, not waving or pointed up in the air when not in use. Ask to be given something, don’t reach across the table.
3. Say please and thank you at every opportunity
4. If you’re a smoker be courteous to others. Your exhaled smoke affects others clothes, their atmosphere and experiences when they’re eating or in the same room as you. If someone spat on a table beside where you’re sitting – would you be offended and think its gross? Be considerate when you drop your butts. The world is awash with discarded cigarette butts in public places, beaches, and sidewalks.
What would you do if someone just dropped their rubbish on your front lawn as they walked past
5. Acknowledge someone when they do well
6. Write a handwritten note or card to someone for any reason, but especially to thank them or say sorry
7. If you’re a man walk in the outside of a woman as you walk down the street
8. Respect your elders and those in authority over you. You may not like them but respect their age or position
9. Treat everyone you come in to contact with, with respect. Remember: ‘To be humble to superiors is duty; to equals, courtesy; to inferiors, nobility.’ It’s not big deeds, but small acts of kindness that make us great
10. Say hello to someone when they walk past you, and smile
11. Listen to everyone’s ideas. We all contribute in some form.
12. Listen fully before you speak. 80% of the message is normally in the last 20% of what someone says.
13. Open, and hold open a door if someone is in front of you or coming behind you
14. Be aware of your surroundings. Don’t suddenly stop walking and expect everyone to walk around you.
Be aware of what is behind you – especially if you’re driving
15. Don’t speak loudly on your cellphone in public so everyone hears your conversation – tone it down. We don’t want to hear, or know of the personal issues you’re discussing. The Privacy Act was introduced for a reason!
16. Treat ‘wait staff’ with respect and courtesy. Say please and thank you. After all they’re trying their best.
17. Smile at someone and see their reaction. Bet they smile back
18. In a coffee shop, pay for someone’s coffee who is behind you, without them knowing – watch their reaction from a distance
19. If someone has a heavy load they’re carrying and you’re a strong person – offer to help
20. Don’t get offended at small slights or offences that may happen to you. If someone offends you, be the first to try and make up
21. Don’t be scared to say sorry if you realise you’re wrong. Say it with sincerity.
22. If you see someone’s doing something nice, go up and let them know how well they have done – even if they are a stranger.
23. Volunteer your service for a day once per year at a place of your choice.
24. Laugh at least 30 x a day – especially at yourself.
25. Don’t get involved or interfere in other people’s quarrels – especially if you’re not asked.
26. Don’t stop in doorways or entrances. Others are behind you.
27. Keep left when you’re driving. Think of others behind you. Let them past. Yes, they may be speeding but it may be for a genuine reason that you don’t know of. It’s safer to let them passed, than block them and cause an issue through road rage.
28. Keep your speed up, or pull to the left. One person driving 5mph below the speed limit has a domino effect on all those behind them. Doing this is what causes tailbacks and traffic snarl-ups. Keep up or keep left.
29. Get to know your neighbours – at least say hello.
30. Maintain your integrity. If you find an item has been left off your bill, be up front and let the shop owner or ‘wait staff’ know. You’ll be better for being honest, and feel great for it.
31, It is always better to receive than to give.
32. If your business is service (and not product) give the best possible service.
33. Smile and greet people – get off your ph or social media device.
There’s nothing worse than having to wait for people to get off their txt or finish their conversation before they serve you.
34. If you sell product – give great service as well as selling a great product.
35. You may have done or said the same thing over and over again – it may be boring to you. Remember though for the person standing in front of you, it maybe their first time. Give them a wow experience.
36. If you have a disagreement with someone and they rectify the issue, don’t forget to thank them. It is easy to be angry and frustrated, but the sign of a great person is someone who can acknowledge another person for rectifying an issue.
37. Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.
38. Being a giver doesn’t require extraordinary acts of sacrifice. It just involves a focus on acting in the interests of others.
39. I had been conditioned to believe that there is nothing more dangerous than the arrogance of ignorance, now I would learn that it does not compare with the arrogance of knowledge, knowledge that is often confused with wisdom.
40. It is in crisis moments that the men get separated from the boys, and every leader should have a good idea of which is which, and who is who, in the heat of battle.
41. Why do we conduct a test programme. It’s to find the problems before they appear in the field.
42. Don’t make promises, Give guarantees.
43. When something is unfair and unjust, you may be being called to challenge and change it.
All things don’t come to those who wait, but to those who are willing to go and get them.
Solutions are found when you decide to face your problems head-on and do something about them.
44. 40% of the things we worry about never happen 30% are in the past and can’t be helped 12% involve the affairs of others that are not our business
10% relate to sickness, real or imagined Thus only 8% of the things we worry about are likely to happen
45. Learn to listen without thinking of a reply. Listen with an honest ear.
Be slow to contradict and challenge others view, or opinion. Weigh the words of others before unloading your words on them.
46. Listen with a heart of compassion and an ear of mercy.
Make your reply using gentle words, words of compassion. Don’t take sides when there is no opposition.
Don’t respond to another’s well thought out idea impulsively.
If we learn to be good listeners we will receive good information.
47. Quitting is always simpler than enduring. But it produces a pattern that’s hard to break; one you live to regret.
48. The road to success has many potholes. You’ll fall into some – and they’re messy. Not only will you have to climb back out, you’ll have to dust yourself off, refocus, recommit, and keep going.
Since failure is inevitable, why not make it your friend by examining each experience and growing stronger through it?
49. ‘Success is not measured by the heights you attain, but by the obstacles you overcome in its attainment.
50. Betrayal is something you do to others. Bitterness is something you do to yourself.
51. Successful people have one thing in common: they refuse to quit! No matter how many times they fall, they get back up, dust themselves off, learn from it, and start over.
52. ‘The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it is still the same problem you had last year.’
53. 8 rules to live by (1) If you’ve a problem with me, come and see me privately. I’ll do the same for you. (2) If someone else has a problem with me and comes to you, send them to me. I’ll do the same. (3) If someone won’t come to me, say, ‘Let’s go see him together.’ I’ll do the same.
(4) Be careful how you interpret me – It’s too easy to misinterpret intentions. I’ll also be careful how I interpret you. (5) If it’s confidential, don’t tell. If you or anyone else comes to me in confidence, I won’t tell, unless they’re going to harm themselves, harm someone else, or a child has been physically or sexually abused. I expect the same from you. (6) I don’t read unsigned letters. (7) I don’t manipulate. I won’t be manipulated. Don’t let others manipulate you. And don’t let others try to manipulate me through you. (8) When in doubt, just say so. If I can answer without misrepresenting something or breaking a confidence, I will.
54. Character – the ability to carry on a resolution after the mood, in which it was made, is past.
55. Success lies in daily routine. Be of service to someone every day. Tackle a problem bigger than you Encourage everyone you meet. Overcome a bad habit. Do something for someone who can’t repay you. Ask for help when you need it.
56. ‘Remember, life is nothing more than the sum total of many successful years;
a successful year is nothing more than the sum total of many successful months;
a successful month is nothing more than the sum total of many successful weeks;
a successful week is nothing more than the sum total of many successful days.
That’s why practicing successful habits, day in and day out, is the most certain way to win over the long term.’